Sent a friend invite to P my father through fb. I still have him on my old one, but i never added him to this. I lost contact for ages when i had a typical empty phone call with him not connecting.
I don’t know, i get a lot negative baggage in my life from my brother and mother, who i have the most contact with.
They both have depression and neither one is in treatment of any kind.
I don’t think depression runs in my family any more than anyone elses, but K has it and C does.
I never understood not having treatment. I had mild depression , a few times. And i always medicated.
Medication can save a lot of pain and energy loss and allow you to focus on what else needs changing. Since when a person is depressed its very very difficult to not obsess over the past , obsess over mistakes, have lack of direction.
I have tried helping K to no effect. And my brother is the same, hes been out of work for years now and has no friends, no girlfriend, his life is exceedingly empty.
He started three businesses, selling online initially, but his depression kicked in and he basically let them fade. Hes a talented photographer, but does nothing with it. Even though his work (when he took it) gets thousands of views online. He could make a living from it but thinks he cannot deal with the public.
Isolation is the worst part of depression.
What can i do to help him?
Applying for a job in Leeds with a company. Its exactly what i want to do, so inshallah it happens
Working with people with neurological damage.
Perfect training art therapy.
Damn i was looking at teaching assistant jobs and found that a lot of them require knowledge of key stage 1 and lesson plans. Talked to someone on my fb who is a teacher and he said with teaching being so stressful in England now and the huge workload lots of trained teachers are instead quitting full time teaching and applying for classroom assistant jobs. The pay is not much smaller, and they are not faced with huge amounts of extra curricular activities, homework, pta meetings, aggressive parents and stress from oftsed and an ever changing attack from government calling teachers ‘lazy’.
The downside to this, is that someone looking for classroom experience like me, finds it harder to find anything. Because im competing with the ‘mums army’ and now trained teachers who can’t handle a class of kids but can’t afford to leave the profession.
I was talking to K on the phone today , i finally got a wedding invitation from my brother J. This is the brother who is marrying the millionaires daughter.
I only met her once at a family camping trip. What a disaster that was , well i had fun. But we ended up camping opposite this mixed family with ten kids. And they set up a football pitch if you can believe it. So footballs were flying all over. Anyway i got stinking drunk for two days because i had just split with R and i needed a break. I don’t normally drink though.
I had fun though.
And as a family, we never, ever , ever have family events like this.
So ..i don’t know.. i think with these things being rare i should save to go right?
And its Italy…it does look beautiful.
. I don’t know…its not until next year. I guess i can go on something like easyjet. I haven’t seen J in almost two years though.
Im happy for him though, im not on his fb, but he seems to have lots of pics with him and his fiancee vacationing all over the world.
Its in such contrast to my last relationship. Coincidentally she was another millionaires daughter (not the same one!).
K is in social housing, but i think since she is retiring soon, i think her choices are two.
Her health is slowly getting worse, she has a cataract.And with all her drinking and smoking its not looking good for a healthy retirement to be honest.
Least shes getting her kitchen remodelled though.
I have a friend who is trying to get on esa for his depression. Esa stands for employability suitability allowance. Basically its disability. I was finding all the information for him, he can be a bit draining. His sense of humour has gone, hes been depressed for years. But at least if he gets on disability he can have a platform for change, because its sad to see someone so intelligent dig this huge rut for themselves and lose all motivation for improvement.
I honestly don’t know him so well, but i find myself helping him. Khallas its up to him to see a doctor and pursue it from this point.
I was raised by an addicted depressive so i know what a cold world it can be for them. And i dated a chronic depressive for two years and that was so so so draining , for me and her. No wonder she was exhausted all the time, it must have been like having a machine on full power all the time, every day for years.
I am actually very behind the current idea that secondary schools in England should hire full time therapists. Pastoral care in schools here depends on the area really. When K was getting drunk all day and our education was effected no one at the school cared.
No one bothered to ask if our home life had problems when we missed days because we stayed at home worried that she wouldn’t wake up due to the vast amounts of alcohol she had consumed.
Having the school be involved in our welfare at a personal level could have helped a lot.
So knowing that no one helped me, i always try to help another through a tough time best i can.